With all the reforms to the way children come into or stay out of the foster care system, one thing remains clear, kids in care are traumatized on some level. We believe that over time, as the system does a better job keeping kids with their families by providing the supports those families need, it will be the most traumatized kids that stay in the foster care system. It is our job as foster parents to be prepared to handle the challenges these kids face. Chances of a foster parent getting an allegation are about 1 in 7. This can be very emotional on even the most prepared foster parents. I have been there more than once, and it felt like my world was be falling apart. Even knowing that I was innocent, the feeling of dread was huge.
Over the last year or so we have been working with CA to make this experience as stress free as possible. One big step has been the policy shift which requires the investigator to tell the foster parent what the allegation is as soon as any safety concerns are dealt with. As foster parents we need to know this! Of course if the system breaks down, give us a call and we will help.